April 7, 2011:  Hello and sorry as always that I haven't updated this in so long.  I'm sure you've all heard, it's been a very difficult few months around here.  In case you haven't, Lisa passed away in her sleep the morning after Christmas.  I had gotten up early to go work on the house and she was going to sleep in with the dogs and call me later when she got up.  Later in the day I started to worry when she didn't answer the phone so I had our friends (who's guest house we live in) check on her; she appeared to sleeping peacefully.  An autopsy was performed and there was no cause found.  This all has been extremely hard on everyone that knew Lisa.  She was the most kind and generous person that you would ever meet and it's impossible to understand how something like this could have happened to someone like her.  All of our friends have been amazingly helpful from just being there for me to putting together an amazing celebration of her life that over 150 people attended.  I can't even put to words how hard this has been for me.  Lisa and I knew each other for about 14 years, were a couple for the last 10 years and were married for the last 6 of them.  We did everything together and were able to make even the most boring of things fun.  Through our entire relationship I can count the number of fights we had on one hand, we were perfect for each other and planned to spend the next 50+ years enjoying each other's company.  Everyone says that I'll be ok someday and I'm hoping they're right, for now there are bad days and really bad days.  The dogs are doing well, though I could tell Stella was very shaken up about the whole thing, she was laying with Lisa when she passed and wouldn't let anyone near her, I'm told she had to be forcefully removed and she wouldn't leave my side for the first two weeks.  Through the last few months the house construction has continued, which has been both a welcomed distraction and a huge source of stress at the same time.  I moved back in the first week of March and the builders are finishing up a few details like exterior paint and landscaping over the next few weeks.  It has been both difficult and comforting to be back there with all of our things and memories, I've been keeping busy enough around the house to not be thinking about her as much, which is good and bad.  I'm not sure what will happen to jay and lisa dot org, I will probably leave it up for a while but not make updates, we'll see, I haven't really given it all that much thought.  If you were a friend of Lisa's and this is the first you've heard of this I sincerely appologize for not contacting you sooner but hope you understand.  Many people we contacted helped by spreading the word to the friends that knew her for us but we knew many would be missed.  That's it for me for now, take care of yourselves, give your loved ones a big hug, live every day like it's your last, and think about Lisa and your times with her often.